Valentine's day used to be just another day for me. No different than any other day. I didn't hate it or love it, it just was. Then four years ago I was going through a divorce and it decided it no longer wanted to be ignored. I was alone and single for the first time in twelve years, and every where I went that day people said 'happy valentine's day' and it pissed me off to no end. It hurt each time I heard that or saw a happy couple. After some time passed I laughed at myself for getting so mad. Valentine's day the next year didn't go unnoticed, but it didn't feel as bad. So for three years I noted its existence, used the day as an excuse to be thankful for all the love in my life, and move on.
Today I'm single again, and I'm going to spend it noting all the people I've loved, love now, and will love in the future. But I also have a ton of great memories from last year that deserve attention. On this day last year I was in love with someone who was very important to me. He put a lot of effort into making that Valentine's day one of the best days I've ever had. Our relationship is over now, but even though that has been painful, I can remember all the good times (and there were a lot of them). I have nothing but smiles and love as I think of the time we spent together.
Even if you don't have a boyfriend, husband, or significant other on Valentine's day it's the perfect day to think the people you love - regardless of whether or not they are still in your life.